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Originally posted by SoulOfABird:
@Aries23degreesCan it possibly be a mix of both a hang up on sex mixed with somewhat sacred views on it?
I can speak from my own experience that I do have certain views on sex that give me a more conservative view on it. I don't like over sexualization of things and I feel sex is something very connecting and intimate. So I feel I do hold some "sacred" views on sex but as well kind of bothered by over sexualization of things. However, it's my own opinion because a lot of people Ive been around are always encouraging it.
I am a late bloomer as well. So I have not been in a relationship at all and Im currently 22. So Im not completely against sex, even though I feel I can do without it,however if I do I have to be very comfortable and safe with the guy and I have to love him because otherwise I probably would feel icky.
It's funny you mention problems with the genitals because Im very sensitive there, like I honestly get weak and squeamish if I accidentally got hurt there or if I hear about someone else getting hurt there. I nearly faint 😬 Im very weak when it comes to that.
That's from my point of view, however with this guy Im not sure really. I feel like he is romantic but he doesn't seem to be overly sexual.
And you are right he actually has been working out a lot lately! 😂 I didn't think he's be the type to work out but he's been doing it a lot.
He does seem like he would be a particular person. He loves to spend money on clothes and cars yet he still saves his money. He's also very work orientated. His 5th house is in Aquarius so Im not sure what that means
Can it be a mix of both sanctifyng & being scared of it? Yes.
Often religious people feel both pleasure and the pain of guilt or doing something "barbaric" with sex. Notice how "sacred" and "scared" are very close neighbours divided by swopping the the letters "ac" around? Its a mindset really.
Being a late bloomer can also do that-make sex seem like a "space launch" and a VERY serious affair indeed. Because I think when one adds "spirituality" to the perception of how the experience "should" be, then all the fun & games go out the window. Jt becomes stringent.
What starts to happen is they may start to dictate the "procedures" and "rules" that it should be engaged under i.e lights off, none must "hear",no "vulgar" language.
There is to be no insertions of objects on body parts,sex can be done only in their bedroom & nowhere else, no "quickies", no videos, done only when in a committed relations etc. Otherwise sex becomes "sacrilegious".
The question now is; does that still making sex "sacred" or "scary". Because one is always weary that one may unwittingly "defile" it?
I speak candidly on this because I am stuck up when it comes to sex. I have pretty rigid views which I parade around as "sacred". Most guys are frustrated with me as when they try and seduce me, I am pretty wound up TIGHT!
And it took psychological digging to realize that my hangups with it are due to beliefs that sex "demeans" a person somehow(That came from parents) And so it must be kept "secret" and done under the outermost "discretion"- otherwise people would judge me harshly if they knew I engaged in it openly.
This has fostered very extreme desires within me goaded by sexual frustration as well as a sex drive that is supressed by guilt and fear on one hand. But also the need of letting myself just get on with it on the other.
So I am seeking help and intervention(also Saturn) to alleviate much of the psychological distress that scares me when it comes to sex.Because sex is scary to me somehow.
Saturn can also suggest enjoying sex later on in life-when all the anxieties around it are relaxed.As Saturn eases up through the passage of time and much of the beliefs we had when young, change when we are older
But what should be added therein is how important it is to be aware and soothe oneself down from those warped beliefs that make sex seem "monstrous" NOW. That it's not necessary to "wait" on old age to magically make all those hangups "disappear".
Problems with the genitals can increase phobias & a defensive attitude towards intimacy. But sort out whether this is more psychological than actual. As actual pain may need physical examination to be relieved(again Saturn)-otherwise it crystallizes to psychological discomfort over time.
Notice how we cringe with discomfort when another person is stuck with a needle? As if it is us who are going through that? This is what I mean by hangups that are psychological . It can "feel" real even when its just a projection or perception we have rooted in a rigid belief of "pain".
5th house cusp in Aqua may suggest a manifestation that hinges on the planet Saturn's (ruler of 5th) sign and aspects. The additional consideration would be theUranus sign and aspects(I always use modern rulers as "additional" rulers unless they occupy that house)
Generally Aqua tends to not follow trends or goes against the current i.e when people are sexualized, they by reverse motion become more conservative.When people are conservative, they become porn stars. Aqua energy can be crazy and paradoxical.
So when in 5th, it could manifest as someone who resists group mentality when it comes to dating, love and pleasure i.e.they may believe in commitment vs. sleeping with just about anyone. But that depends on the Aqua concerned.
On the other end,it could manifest as someone with a sporadic interest in love that disappears as quickly as it came, "love at first sight" encounters or sudden unavoidable feelings of a spark between them & another person etc.
Some can be asexual,pansexual, loving more than one person at a time i.e "throuples", open relationships,long distance relationships(also Nep/Pisces in 5th) can be like this), be gender indifferent/neutral or bisexual.
Aqua is indeed the energy that is more "expect a suprise and still be shocked" than anything else. Loving physical "deformity" that is unique in some way, is also possible i.e dwarfism, disabled people or people born with unusual facial features.
Like your man, I have Mars in 6th conj Dsc. I see it manifest both in 6th and 7th-since Mars also tightly aspects the 6th house ruler(Merc) and Mars in Libra forms a mutual reception with Venus in Scorpio.
I also have Saturn in Scorpio conj Venus and Uranus in 8th.And the latter is responsible for weird & inexplicable sexual kinks that come & go. I have fallen in lust and had people fall in lust with me lot.
My Sun is conj Neptune and Jupiter(Sun rules the 5th house).And so like you,I dream of a spiritually "connected" someone with whom I can consummately bond with and give my "all" to in love.
My therapist asked me if this person is boarding the same plane as Jesus? Lol. Because at my rate, I keep on turning away "earthlings" to look up at the sky in anticipation of what's to fall down from up there whilst life is going on.
Always up at the sky with palpable hope whilst life is still going on. And that's the issue with "sanctity"-it discounts the human element even as you wish to bond with someone who IS human (ironically). Well,unless you are secretly fantasizing to be intimate with an "extra terrestrial" lol.
Actually that could be likely with Neptune and perhaps with Uranus involved Having sex with an alien or wishing for an "out of this world" love experience with an extra terrestrial.